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Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sat Jan 12, 2008 3:49 am
by JAS
I just saw this story on the news...what a nightmare for them.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/7182817.stm


Parted-at-birth twins 'married'

A pair of twins who were adopted by separate families as babies got married without knowing they were brother and sister, a peer told the House of Lords.

A court annulled the British couple's union after they discovered their true relationship, Lord Alton said.

The peer - who was told of the case by a High Court judge involved - said the twins felt an "inevitable attraction".

He said the case showed how important it was for children to be able to find out about their biological parents.

Details of the identities of the twins involved have been kept secret, but Lord Alton said the pair did not realise they were related until after their marriage.

'Truth will out'

The former Liberal Democrat MP raised the couple's case during a House of Lords debate on the Human Fertility and Embryology Bill in December.

"They were never told that they were twins," he told the Lords.

"They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of the marriage that they entered into and all the issues of their separation."

He told the BBC News website that their story raises the wider issue of the importance of strengthening the rights of children to know the identities of their biological parents.

"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out," he said.

"And if you don't know you are biologically related to someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."

Pam Hodgkins, chief executive officer of the charity Adults Affected by Adoption (NORCAP) said there had been previous cases of separated siblings being attracted to each other.

"We have a resistance, a very strong incest taboo where we are aware that someone is a biological relative," she said.

"But when we are unaware of that relationship, we are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves.

'Incredibly rare'

"And of course there is unlikely to be anyone more similar to any individual than their sibling."

Mo O'Reilly, director of child placement for the British Association for Adoption and Fostering, said the situation was traumatic for the people involved, but incredibly rare.

"Thirty or 40 years ago it would have been more likely that twins be separated and, brought up without knowledge of each other," she said.

Today, however, adopted children grow up with a greater knowledge of their birth families - and organisations try to place brothers and sisters together.

If that were not possible, the siblings would still have some form of contact with each other.

"This sad case illustrates why, over the last 20-30 years, the shift to openness in adoption was so important," Ms O'Reilly added.

Regards
JAS

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sat Jan 12, 2008 7:13 am
by TroyGFC
http://www.news.com.au/adelaidenow/stor ... 62,00.html

At least they didn't have kids together!!

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 9:28 am
by Mr66
I thought this was an SANFL forum, not the Central Districts social pages. :wink: :lol:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 1:28 pm
by RustyCage
Mr66 wrote:I thought this was an SANFL forum, not the Central Districts social pages. :wink: :lol:


No, the couple in this story didn't know they were related, thats the difference.

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 3:02 pm
by redwhiteandblueblooded
pafc1870 wrote:
Mr66 wrote:I thought this was an SANFL forum, not the Central Districts social pages. :wink: :lol:


No, the couple in this story didn't know they were related, thats the difference.


Oh thats rich,comments like that coming from the shallow end of the gene pool!! :wink:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 3:28 pm
by bulldogproud
JAS darling, you better not be my twin!! *grins*

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 3:35 pm
by Snaggletooth Tiger
If the fella did happen to 'shoot one past the goalie' so to speak & their offspring decided to pursue a career in Aussie Rulz...
Then that'll bring a whole new meaning to the term 'Double Header'

It's an old tried & true TAFL joke, but still worth a punt eh? :wink:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 11:15 pm
by johntheclaret
bulldogproud wrote:JAS darling, you better not be my twin!! *grins*

:shock: :shock: :shock:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 12:46 am
by JAS
johntheclaret wrote:
bulldogproud wrote:JAS darling, you better not be my twin!! *grins*

:shock: :shock: :shock:


You think you're shocked.... :shock: 8-[

Regards
JAS

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 4:03 pm
by bulldogproud
Sorry, darling JAS.
A man can only be hopeful! :wink:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 4:52 pm
by Punk Rooster
One would assume that the marriage was consumated... :oops: :oops: :oops:
Has the man relinquished his conjugal rights? :wink:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 4:53 pm
by smac
Punk Rooster wrote:One would assume that the marriage was consumated... :oops: :oops: :oops:
Has the man relinquished his conjugal rights? :wink:

Poor bloke's probably washed his 'conjugal rights' to within an inch of existence...

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 6:20 pm
by JAS
bulldogproud wrote:Sorry, darling JAS.
A man can only be hopeful! :wink:


But you might be the long lost twin that I didn't know I had...stollen by gypsies and raised by dingoes...finding eachother after all these years and having to endure the bitter disappointment of discovering that your red and blue blood is tainted with white :( :wink:

Regards
JAS

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2008 9:14 am
by bulldogproud
So very true, JAS darling.
People do say that I am a Scot when it comes to parting with money after all. I suppose there has to be a bit of white in me - after all, I am the 'pure' one of the family!
:wink:
Cheers

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2008 11:19 pm
by Psyber
bulldogproud wrote:So very true, JAS darling.
People do say that I am a Scot when it comes to parting with money after all. I suppose there has to be a bit of white in me - after all, I am the 'pure' one of the family!
:wink:
Cheers

That reminds me of the Mcleay I met at a family party at Sir John's old home years ago who introduced himself as "the red sheep of the family".

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:36 am
by johntheclaret
bulldogproud wrote: I suppose there has to be a bit of white in me


* :shock:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:22 pm
by bulldogproud
Yes, I admit, I do have that white cowarice streak in me, JTC :wink:

Re: Twins 'married'

PostPosted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 9:26 pm
by Wedgie
I know many people are being tongue in cheek but its a terrible thing to happen and raises a good point IMHO.
Im aware of many people who have been adopted who their parents have forbidden them finding out who their real parents are, this is just another reason why it should be encouraged, not frowned upon.