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I'd like some advice on a tricky work/social situation.
A workmate is leaving in the next few weeks and I'd like to buy her a small present.
We get along really well (with a little bit of sexual tension but we don't go overboard with it),with the odd workmate thinking that we are seeing each other.
She is half my age and if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).
She has a steady boyfriend and I want to buy her a small gift but don't want to give her (or the boyfriend!) any mixed messages.
First question is, 1/ Should I buy her anything, and 2/ If so, what?.

How long have you worked with her for?

Three years

I think - yes you should buy her a gift

But what?

Given she's got a steady boyfriend (and is half your age ) you probably don't want it to be too personal - but it's the thought that counts....

So why not just a big box of chocolates or similar - with a nice card that says she'll be missed??
(Because it's obviously true)

Something like flowers might be going too far?

My 2c worth

A Mum wrote:Given she's got a steady boyfriend (and is half your age ) you probably don't want it to be too personal - but it's the thought that counts....

The nail has been right on the head. ( I knew I'd get sensible advice from a woman. You should what some of my troglidyte male friends have suggested! )
Chocolates might not be the go, ("It goes straight to my arse!"), so a box of fruit or something similar.
Much appreciated Mum!

I'd avoid Jewellery, Perfume, and of course Lingerie - all the very personal stuff...

Psyber wrote:I'd avoid Jewellery, Perfume, and of course Lingerie - all the very personal stuff...

She was wearing some very sexy stockings once and I asked whether they were stockings or pantyhose.
She 'stormed off' in a huff, calling me a perv. But she was joking and loved every second of it.
I was thinking about buying a pair of both but in really big sizes, as too make it an obvious joke.
Any thoughts on that angle?

Mr66 wrote:

The nail has been right on the head. ( I knew I'd get sensible advice from a woman. You should what some of my troglidyte male friends have suggested!
Chocolates might not be the go, ("It goes straight to my arse!"), so a box of fruit or something similar.
Much appreciated Mum!

Don't speak too soon you might end up with a few more along those lines on here too

Just had another thought

You can get 'plant' gift hamper thingy whatsits....
If you were to give her one of those - then when she looks at it (the plant) in the future,
It'll remind her of you and the obvious 'good times' you've had at work

Not sure about the pantyhose thing - if it's a private joke and she gets it - then yes...lol.
If it's not and she doesn't get it - she might think you're a weirdo

Mr66 wrote:if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).

Well, she won't be working with you any more!

As for the gift, I would definitely go with A Mum's advice

A Mum wrote:

Mr66 wrote:

The nail has been right on the head. ( I knew I'd get sensible advice from a woman. You should what some of my troglidyte male friends have suggested!
Chocolates might not be the go, ("It goes straight to my arse!"), so a box of fruit or something similar.
Much appreciated Mum!

Don't speak too soon you might end up with a few more along those lines on here too

Just had another thought

You can get 'plant' gift hamper thingy whatsits....
If you were to give her one of those - then when she looks at it (the plant) in the future,
It'll remind her of you and the obvious 'good times' you've had at work

Not sure about the pantyhose thing - if it's a private joke and she gets it - then yes...lol.
If it's not and she doesn't get it - she might think you're a weirdo :lol:

That rules out a pet rabbit then

Mr66 wrote:I'd like some advice on a tricky work/social situation.
A workmate is leaving in the next few weeks and I'd like to buy her a small present.
We get along really well (with a little bit of sexual tension but we don't go overboard with it),with the odd workmate thinking that we are seeing each other.
She is half my age and if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).
She has a steady boyfriend and I want to buy her a small gift but don't want to give her (or the boyfriend!) any mixed messages.
First question is, 1/ Should I buy her anything, and 2/ If so, what?.

No mate. Do not get her a present from just yourself.
If she is twice your age you are probably married.
Take charge and do a collection for her and then give it to her, as the gift collector.
you stiil look good as the key man doing the collection and the personal stuff will be avoided.
You are totally right in keeping away from workplace romances.

Mr66 wrote:I'd like some advice on a tricky work/social situation.
A workmate is leaving in the next few weeks and I'd like to buy her a small present.
We get along really well (with a little bit of sexual tension but we don't go overboard with it),with the odd workmate thinking that we are seeing each other.
She is half my age and if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).
She has a steady boyfriend and I want to buy her a small gift but don't want to give her (or the boyfriend!) any mixed messages.
First question is, 1/ Should I buy her anything, and 2/ If so, what?.

wait until she leaves, then bang her ...

dedja wrote:

Mr66 wrote:She is half my age and if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).

wait until she leaves, then bang her ...

LOL, my thoughts too....

Tell her your Mr 66, would she like to add 3....

yeah id have to agree with the above posts

SJABC wrote:

dedja wrote:

Mr66 wrote:She is half my age and if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).

wait until she leaves, then bang her ...

LOL, my thoughts too....

Tell her your Mr 66, would she like to add 3....

Spot on lads. LMAO Jabber.

Definitely a box of raincoats and your phone number.

Hey Mr66, are you attached?

Mr66 wrote:I'd like some advice on a tricky work/social situation.
A workmate is leaving in the next few weeks and I'd like to buy her a small present.
We get along really well (with a little bit of sexual tension but we don't go overboard with it),with the odd workmate thinking that we are seeing each other.
She is half my age and if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).
She has a steady boyfriend and I want to buy her a small gift but don't want to give her (or the boyfriend!) any mixed messages.
First question is, 1/ Should I buy her anything, and 2/ If so, what?.

I'm sorry, I know this is serious and all.
Reading this, all I could think of was David Brent.

Sorry, play on.

Dogwatcher wrote:

Mr66 wrote:I'd like some advice on a tricky work/social situation.
A workmate is leaving in the next few weeks and I'd like to buy her a small present.
We get along really well (with a little bit of sexual tension but we don't go overboard with it),with the odd workmate thinking that we are seeing each other.
She is half my age and if i didn't work with her I'd be on her in a second (workplace romances are a no-go with me).
She has a steady boyfriend and I want to buy her a small gift but don't want to give her (or the boyfriend!) any mixed messages.
First question is, 1/ Should I buy her anything, and 2/ If so, what?.

I'm sorry, I know this is serious and all.
Reading this, all I could think of was David Brent.

Sorry, play on.

If you're anything like David Brent, I suggest you buy her a dildo that she can use every time she thinks of you (which would obviosuly be all the time).

Give her an invitation to the pants party.

ROFLMAO
You haven't failed to disappoint me, 'gentlemen'

Lightning McQueen wrote:Hey Mr66, are you attached?

No, and that's one part of this situation that makes it tricky.