Things that make you sad.

[Lightning McQueen]

Condolences LM

As others have said, make sure you surround yourself with your loved ones. And have a chat with them. I know I would probably bottle it up, which is probably the worst thing you can do

Thanks bmac, my missus is my best friend and an excellent communicator, if I look glum or seem down she'll just show me her boobs or do something to make me laugh and open up a bit.

[Booney]

Condolences LM

As others have said, make sure you surround yourself with your loved ones. And have a chat with them. I know I would probably bottle it up, which is probably the worst thing you can do

Thanks bmac, my missus is my best friend and an excellent communicator, if I look glum or seem down she'll just show me her boobs or do something to make me laugh and open up a bit.

I'm a bit glum to be honest.



( Hopefully that put a little smile on the dial )

[JK]

Sorry to hear LM, thoughts with ya mate!

[Footy Chick]

Condolences LM

As others have said, make sure you surround yourself with your loved ones. And have a chat with them. I know I would probably bottle it up, which is probably the worst thing you can do

Thanks bmac, my missus is my best friend and an excellent communicator, if I look glum or seem down she'll just show me her boobs or do something to make me laugh and open up a bit.

I'm a bit glum to be honest.



( Hopefully that put a little smile on the dial )

This is a little poem that my bestie from high school used to recite anytime we looked a bit down

Don't be sad
Don't be glum
We too have pimples on our bum

[Lightning McQueen]

Thank you all, it was a pretty sad day and there's plenty to worry about from here on.

They've been on a downhill spiral since they lost their home in the Pinery fires and insurance wouldn't cover it, trying to rebuild your lives in your late 70's was probably too much for them, throw in a 57 year old retarded son to have to have to supply 24/7 care for and life gets a bit too much.

Reflecting on things last night makes my personal problems I've endured seem selfish.

[Brodlach]

F&$k, good luck mate and to your family. You are all entitled to a change in fortunes

[Lightning McQueen]

F&$k, good luck mate and to your family. You are all entitled to a change in fortunes

Cheers Brodlach, as long as we have a roof over our heads we will always have a happy positive home, we make the most of what we have and are grateful.

[valleys07]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

[Lightning McQueen]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

Wow mate, at the end of the day you know yourself better than anyone.

I had to do the same thing and it bloody near killed me, had my old man pass away not long after aswell so it was a tough lonely road.

Lie is too short to be stuck in a toxic relationship and to be going through the motions, find yourself first and then do what you have to do to pick the pieces up and be the person you want to be.

Although we've only met the once I'm more than happy for the odd pm when you're feeling shit, I might be a bit of a dickhead but I help a lot friends out through tough times.

[Wedgie]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

I admire your courage in being able to share these things on the forum. I wish you all the best and hope things turn out well mate.

[Magellan]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

It's a very brave thing to do to make such a significant decision. Whilst you're probably feeling shithouse about it, you should also take some pride in having the guts to grasp the nettle and take action to improve your lot in life (maybe not right now, but in time). Many people are indecisive or apathetic about making life changing decisions, and everyone suffers as a consequence. You're different, and I think you've demonstrated an admirable quality in doing so.

Good luck with whatever it is you're starting next week.

[valleys07]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

I admire your courage in being able to share these things on the forum. I wish you all the best and hope things turn out well mate.

Thanks, Wedgie.

With people continuing to raise awareness for mental health, and Men's mental health in particular, one thing I won't allow myself to do is sit in silence and let my anxiety grapple me. I will talk to anyone who is happy to lend an ear and is in a position to offer any encouragement as it makes things easier to accept, and above all, gives me hope that things will get better.

[valleys07]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

Wow mate, at the end of the day you know yourself better than anyone.

I had to do the same thing and it bloody near killed me, had my old man pass away not long after aswell so it was a tough lonely road.

Lie is too short to be stuck in a toxic relationship and to be going through the motions, find yourself first and then do what you have to do to pick the pieces up and be the person you want to be.

Although we've only met the once I'm more than happy for the odd pm when you're feeling shit, I might be a bit of a dickhead but I help a lot friends out through tough times.

Thanks LM, and I appreciate you reaching out to me just to chat.

Right now things appear very cloudy because I am still going through the infancy of 5 stages of grieving, but once I begin to talk to professionals, begin to piece my life back together and move forward, I will hopefully be able to find myself again and return to the happy and confident person that I once was.

[valleys07]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

It's a very brave thing to do to make such a significant decision. Whilst you're probably feeling shithouse about it, you should also take some pride in having the guts to grasp the nettle and take action to improve your lot in life (maybe not right now, but in time). Many people are indecisive or apathetic about making life changing decisions, and everyone suffers as a consequence. You're different, and I think you've demonstrated an admirable quality in doing so.

Good luck with whatever it is you're starting next week.

Thanks for the kind words, Mallegan. I appreciate it.

[Booney]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

Anytime. Anytime at all. You've got my number.

[Lightning McQueen]

Thanks LM, and I appreciate you reaching out to me just to chat.

Right now things appear very cloudy because I am still going through the infancy of 5 stages of grieving, but once I begin to talk to professionals, begin to piece my life back together and move forward, I will hopefully be able to find myself again and return to the happy and confident person that I once was.

No worries champ, do it bit by bit.

The bottom line says it all, the confidence and self-esteem cop a massive hit, there was no way I was ever going to ask another chick out.

[bennymacca]

Already been mentioned, but I would go talk to a professional if i were you. Not sure if you tried that with the marriage, but sounds like its too late anyway. But you owe it to yourself and your daughter to go have a chat with someone.

I too think its great that mental health is not such a taboo subject anymore - good on you for speaking up, im sure it will help others who read this to do the same

[Q.]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

Went through the same thing about 18 months ago (4 yr marriage, 10 yrs together)... Sleeping in an empty townhouse on a single mattress, I was in a very dark place for a little while.

I'm happy to chat anytime, I can tell you my story or you can tell me yours.

[valleys07]

After just under a year of pretty difficult times, on Wednesday night I finally made the call to part ways with my wife of 5 years and partner for 10.

Heartbroken is an understatement, but it could have escalated into a very toxic relationship had it been persevered with. Not needed when you have a near 3 year old to factor in moving forward.

I have some mental health and trust issues that need addressing for me to be able to move forward, and I begin that next week.

It is going to be a long road ahead, with things likely to get worse before they get better.

Went through the same thing about 18 months ago (4 yr marriage, 10 yrs together)... Sleeping in an empty townhouse on a single mattress, I was in a very dark place for a little while.

I'm happy to chat anytime, I can tell you my story or you can tell me yours.

Thank you, Q. I will be in touch.

[Wedgie]

Must admit I was elated when my missus of 22 years called it off although I was planning on doing similar when the kids were a bit older. Just make the most of it, my best years have been the last 5. Went through a few "quick" relationships were fun but have now found the love of my life and we've been happily living together for 18 months. Still can't believe my perfect match was a Pom born on the other side of the world but life can be very funny!