whufc wrote:
Cheers mate.
Just finding it impossible to build a life and be the best to continue to move forward both personally and work wise when at the drop of a hat through no fault of myself or my kids the situations change so dramatically.
In one month time my child support is going up by $300 a fortnight, I didn't know the current changes eg the ex had reduced the hours she was going to work and secondly having the kids 12 hours less from 8pm Friday to now 8am Saturday was going to hit me so hard. How can I predict those things and plan in advance, not like my child care fees for the daughter who lives with me are going down, mortgage isn't going down.
Wouldn't have bought a new car if I knew what was to come.....I mean the bank wouldn't have even given me the affordability had I knew I was losing that much money.
What happens if miss 12 get a boyfriend in a years time and decides she is only coming up one day...…..what hit do I take then.
Do the research mate as everything is based on percentage of care.
If I were you I'd try you best to liaise with the ex and come to a mutual agreement to allow more flexibility both ends of the scale.
Having a child with your new partner should reduce your percentage but then the levels of care still come into it.
I took it fair up the tailpipe for 18 years for a son I never got to see because his mum was a violent alcoholic freak, I wasted over $15K in legal fees trying to see my son and she'd never show up to court or mediation despite agreeing to, it still went against me.
To this day I still haven't seen my son for 20+ years and it f****** hurts every day, every few months I build the strength to try again but it just depletes me when it turns to shit again and I end up where I started, just worse off, he has two sisters and a brother that he'd gel with instantly too.
Life is shit!