fisho mcspaz wrote:The Dark Knight wrote:fisho mcspaz wrote:Oh, I agree! Women are hideous. I do it as well. It doesn't mean I'm fine, it means Mr McSpaz is f***ed. He doesn't let me get away with it any more though - if anything's wrong, he won't drop the subject until I spell it out. Which defeats the purpose, cos the whole point is to get them to work it out for themselves.
Good on him haha!
Fair enough if you know your partner well enough you can work it out but men get times where the issue is just complicated to work out for themselves and it's almost like they're expected to read the woman's mind and know what's going on in there, no matter how complicated it may be. Got that with my ex and it's the reason she is my ex lol.
I don't reckon I've ever done it for anything complicated - I can't actually think of anything complicated, most of my issues are pretty straightforward. The ONE thing, and I mean the one thing that I've said 'I'm fine' for when I wasn't, in the last 2-3 years, was that I used to get upset that MM never went out of his way to do anything romantic for me. I accept that he's not that sort of person but I also reckon that people should make an effort occasionally, it's not too much to ask. I'm not a high maintenance person or anything, I was just sad that in nearly 8 years he'd never brought me flowers once. Even if they'd been picked off a stobie pole I wouldn't have minded, I just wanted the idea to occur to him. But it didn't and I couldn't come out and just say it, so I did the 'I'm fine' bulls*** and of course I ended up having to spell it out.
not saying your like this fisho, but sometimes blokes cant win.
im not particularly romantic either, but years ago i was meeting the wife at her work on a friday, and i happened to be walking through the mall on the way, so i bought her a bunch of flowers, just because. got to her work and got the admin girls to call her to the front so i could give them to her, and her immediate response? "what have you done wrong??" ..... told her then and there its the last time i ever buy her flowers if thats the reponse i get, and ive stuck to it.
dont buy flowers "you never show me affection".... do buy flowers "what have you done wrong?"..... bugger it, ill just spend it on beer instead