Things that give you the sh1ts

[tipper]

eh, id probably still look

I don't know whether to laugh, ignore or foe you

ill assume all three and not expect any further replies

[Lightning McQueen]

School holidays.

With 3 teenagers at home I thought I'd do the right thing on the weekend and provide them with plenty of food options, by Tuesday evening they've gone through a kilo of short cut bacon, half a 1kg block of cheese plus over 36 slices, 6 litres of juice, a few litres of soft drink and I get home 2 about 30mls of cordial left in two containers so they didn't finish it excluding them from the refill.

Chuck in, a couple packets of microwave popcorn, 2 add water and pour pancake mixes, some hamburger patties I made up, some mac and cheese & alfredo pasta packets along with 2 packets of assorted cream biscuits, 3 loaves of bread, and that's what I have noticed.

They'll be eating pretty scarce for the remainder of the week.

[HH3]

School holidays.

With 3 teenagers at home I thought I'd do the right thing on the weekend and provide them with plenty of food options, by Tuesday evening they've gone through a kilo of short cut bacon, half a 1kg block of cheese plus over 36 slices, 6 litres of juice, a few litres of soft drink and I get home 2 about 30mls of cordial left in two containers so they didn't finish it excluding them from the refill.

Chuck in, a couple packets of microwave popcorn, 2 add water and pour pancake mixes, some hamburger patties I made up, some mac and cheese & alfredo pasta packets along with 2 packets of assorted cream biscuits, 3 loaves of bread, and that's what I have noticed.

They'll be eating pretty scarce for the remainder of the week.

Make em run around the lake

[Lightning McQueen]

School holidays.

With 3 teenagers at home I thought I'd do the right thing on the weekend and provide them with plenty of food options, by Tuesday evening they've gone through a kilo of short cut bacon, half a 1kg block of cheese plus over 36 slices, 6 litres of juice, a few litres of soft drink and I get home 2 about 30mls of cordial left in two containers so they didn't finish it excluding them from the refill.

Chuck in, a couple packets of microwave popcorn, 2 add water and pour pancake mixes, some hamburger patties I made up, some mac and cheese & alfredo pasta packets along with 2 packets of assorted cream biscuits, 3 loaves of bread, and that's what I have noticed.

They'll be eating pretty scarce for the remainder of the week.

Make em run around the lake

They bloody well have been, and rode their bikes to Semaphore yesterday, should've ridden to Port Noarlunga.

[Corona Man]

This one has been building for the last few weeks.

My stepfather has dementia. He is going downhill fast. The passing of my mother has bought this to a head. Long story short, he called me last night asking me to pay for Mum's funeral..... I know he has the money for this. I know Mum would have taken care of this. Turns out he has the exact cost of the funeral in cash in his safe. Mum would have put it there, no doubt. But his mental state means he cannot recall why he has this money on hand.

Frustrating.

[Lightning McQueen]

This one has been building for the last few weeks.

My stepfather has dementia. He is going downhill fast. The passing of my mother has bought this to a head. Long story short, he called me last night asking me to pay for Mum's funeral..... I know he has the money for this. I know Mum would have taken care of this. Turns out he has the exact cost of the funeral in cash in his safe. Mum would have put it there, no doubt. But his mental state means he cannot recall why he has this money on hand.

Frustrating.

did your mum have any super or life insurance?

[Corona Man]

This one has been building for the last few weeks.

My stepfather has dementia. He is going downhill fast. The passing of my mother has bought this to a head. Long story short, he called me last night asking me to pay for Mum's funeral..... I know he has the money for this. I know Mum would have taken care of this. Turns out he has the exact cost of the funeral in cash in his safe. Mum would have put it there, no doubt. But his mental state means he cannot recall why he has this money on hand.

Frustrating.

did your mum have any super or life insurance?

I would assume so. I had Power of attorney over Mum, but not over him. He is unable now to manage his own affairs - Don't know how this is going to pan out, but I fear the worst.

[Lightning McQueen]

I would assume so. I had Power of attorney over Mum, but not over him. He is unable now to manage his own affairs - Don't know how this is going to pan out, but I fear the worst.

Who done the funeral arrangements? The first thing we were told is that the super would cover the costs of the funeral, we didn't have to do anything.

Things went really pear shaped in our situation as two nighta before my old man passed the POA changed while my dad was in an unfit stage to change it as he'd have his medication around 5:30pm and would become delusional.

Regardless of this, the first bit of any money left in the estate goes towards the funeral costs should there be no funeral plan in place, dad passed away too quickly for us to know what was happening and then once he was in a state of "no coming back" we were presented with the signed documents placing someone else as POA, despite all the way along him telling us to NOT allow this person anywhere near his affairs.

[Footy Chick]

This one has been building for the last few weeks.

My stepfather has dementia. He is going downhill fast. The passing of my mother has bought this to a head. Long story short, he called me last night asking me to pay for Mum's funeral..... I know he has the money for this. I know Mum would have taken care of this. Turns out he has the exact cost of the funeral in cash in his safe. Mum would have put it there, no doubt. But his mental state means he cannot recall why he has this money on hand.

Frustrating.

did your mum have any super or life insurance?

I would assume so. I had Power of attorney over Mum, but not over him. He is unable now to manage his own affairs - Don't know how this is going to pan out, but I fear the worst.

any way you can con in him into opening the safe?

Might be a good time to see if you can get an enduring POA

*edit - assuming he has no birth children of his own...

[Lightning McQueen]

This one has been building for the last few weeks.

My stepfather has dementia. He is going downhill fast. The passing of my mother has bought this to a head. Long story short, he called me last night asking me to pay for Mum's funeral..... I know he has the money for this. I know Mum would have taken care of this. Turns out he has the exact cost of the funeral in cash in his safe. Mum would have put it there, no doubt. But his mental state means he cannot recall why he has this money on hand.

Frustrating.

did your mum have any super or life insurance?

I would assume so. I had Power of attorney over Mum, but not over him. He is unable now to manage his own affairs - Don't know how this is going to pan out, but I fear the worst.

any way you can con in him into opening the safe?

Might be a good time to see if you can get an enduring POA

*edit - assuming he has no birth children of his own...

Who is the executor?

[Corona Man]

Ok to answer a few questions here.

Stepfather is executor of Mums will, so long as he survives her by 30 days, I have POA on her, but that doesn't count for much now does it?

I am a benefactor in the will. Stepfather has 1 daughter, they are estranged.

The safe has been opened, there is "coincidently" the amount needed to cover mums funeral in cash sitting there..... let alone a house freehold (say $500k), a life insurance policy I guess, super (most likely) along with savings accounts.

They were planning a OS holiday before mum got Ill, so they must have had cash tucked away for that.... A good as new Honda Civic in the driveway, that he doesn't drive as he gets lost by the end of the street.

The fact we are in Melbourne makes it really hard as the only communication is by phone.

[Bum Crack]

This one has been building for the last few weeks.

My stepfather has dementia. He is going downhill fast. The passing of my mother has bought this to a head. Long story short, he called me last night asking me to pay for Mum's funeral..... I know he has the money for this. I know Mum would have taken care of this. Turns out he has the exact cost of the funeral in cash in his safe. Mum would have put it there, no doubt. But his mental state means he cannot recall why he has this money on hand.

Frustrating.

did your mum have any super or life insurance?

I would assume so. I had Power of attorney over Mum, but not over him. He is unable now to manage his own affairs - Don't know how this is going to pan out, but I fear the worst.

any way you can con in him into opening the safe?

Might be a good time to see if you can get an enduring POA

*edit - assuming he has no birth children of his own...

Won't be able to get an Enduring Power of Attorney if he's got dementia.

[Lightning McQueen]

Won't be able to get an Enduring Power of Attorney if he's got dementia.

Could if he's listed as next of kin, a little hard not being directly related though.

[Footy Chick]

[Won't be able to get an Enduring Power of Attorney if he's got dementia.

Yeah wasn't sure about the legalities there if he's already been diagnosed.

Any suggestions @jo172 or god forbid, @The Big Shrek

[Lightning McQueen]

Ok to answer a few questions here.

Stepfather is executor of Mums will, so long as he survives her by 30 days, I have POA on her, but that doesn't count for much now does it?

I am a benefactor in the will. Stepfather has 1 daughter, they are estranged.

The safe has been opened, there is "coincidently" the amount needed to cover mums funeral in cash sitting there..... let alone a house freehold (say $500k), a life insurance policy I guess, super (most likely) along with savings accounts.

They were planning a OS holiday before mum got Ill, so they must have had cash tucked away for that.... A good as new Honda Civic in the driveway, that he doesn't drive as he gets lost by the end of the street.

The fact we are in Melbourne makes it really hard as the only communication is by phone.

[Lightning McQueen]

Ok to answer a few questions here.

Stepfather is executor of Mums will, so long as he survives her by 30 days, I have POA on her, but that doesn't count for much now does it?

I am a benefactor in the will. Stepfather has 1 daughter, they are estranged.

The safe has been opened, there is "coincidently" the amount needed to cover mums funeral in cash sitting there..... let alone a house freehold (say $500k), a life insurance policy I guess, super (most likely) along with savings accounts.

They were planning a OS holiday before mum got Ill, so they must have had cash tucked away for that.... A good as new Honda Civic in the driveway, that he doesn't drive as he gets lost by the end of the street.

The fact we are in Melbourne makes it really hard as the only communication is by phone.

POA is defunct on her passing, if he's diagnosed with dementia then you'll have some leverage in obtaining the executor of the will status.

Mate, you're going to have to take a couple of weeks off work to go sort this out in person with the step dad in toe, the last thing you'll want to do is have to fight it in court as no one will win, and given his mental condition anything can happen.

Don't be surprised if the "estranged" daughter all of a sudden appears from nowhere either.

[Bum Crack]

Won't be able to get an Enduring Power of Attorney if he's got dementia.

Could if he's listed as next of kin, a little hard not being directly related though.

His step-father needs to nominate CM as his Power of Attorney and if he's legally incapacitated, as he will be with dementia, it won't be legal even if he does sign it and the solicitor witnessing the signature is then liable.

[Lightning McQueen]

Won't be able to get an Enduring Power of Attorney if he's got dementia.

Could if he's listed as next of kin, a little hard not being directly related though.

His step-father needs to nominate CM as his Power of Attorney and if he's legally incapacitated, as he will be with dementia, it won't be legal even if he does sign it and the solicitor witnessing the signature is then liable.

Yep, it's not a pretty situation.

[Corona Man]

Yikes what a mess.

[Bum Crack]

Yikes what a mess.

Did your mum have her POA and Will in safekeeping at a Solicitor's firm? If so, give them a call and see if the step-father already has a POA in safekeeping with them and if so, see who he has nominated and maybe go direct through them and discuss about fixing up the funeral bill