dedja wrote:I had a quite vigorous discussion about this with the missus yesterday, and she is of the same view as you.
There's no right or wrong, there's only opinions.
About twenty years ago my wife played cricket on a Monday night, I got home from work and it was around 40 degrees and was hesitant about going to cricket as we had a daughter who was about 2 or 3 years old at the time so I suggested I stay home with her instead of dragging her out in the heat.
I gave her dinner and then ran a bath for her, she loved the bath and it occupied her for ages, I then went into the lounge nearby and left the door open while I watched the cricket on TV. I all of a sudden dozed off for God knows how long and then suddenly awoke to absolute silence.
I couldn't hear my daughter so I suddenly jumped up and ran into the bathroom where she was lying on her back motionless with just her chin, mouth and nose not submerged under water. My world flashed before my eyes as I ran in and picked her up only for her to open her eyes startled as I had woken her.
I then dressed her and sat her down with me and held her close to me for the rest of the night until she fell asleep and then I couldn't leave her out of sight.
I rang my wife and asked if shew could come straight home after her game to which she obliged so I told her the events when she arrived, I was an absolute mess and had nightmares and flashbacks for a long time.........................and I was fortunate.
My eyes still water whenever I picture that moment, I have never forgiven myself despite nothing happening, it probably made me the over-protective parent that I am today.