Booney wrote:Spargo wrote:Blokes who marry controlling, insecure, trouble making women.
I am seeing this way too much.
Works both ways, only one person who can change it.
It goes both ways indeed. I have lived it for a year.
Sometimes a particular parties anxiety and insecurity has merit, sometimes not.
For better or for worse is exactly that. You marry a person for all their brilliant and beautiful attributes. You marry them for their flaws.
Specifically- If someone has high levels of anxiousness and is insecure in the relationship. find out why and what you can do to help. Mental health is not easy for a person to acknowledge, and quite often knowing you suffer from anxiety further compounds the problem as you feel like a nuisance.
If you see your partner could use the help of a professional, guide them to such help and support them through the process. My best mate has suffered from crippling anxiety surrounding mortality (his dad passed suddenly when he was 19). His lovely wife has guided him through the process of seeing specialists, and he will freely admit that she puts up with a lot, such as mood swings and short temperament, but for better or for worse.
Not all situations are the same, even mine was very different. I wholeheartedly agree that if things don't improve, you are entitle to seek happiness for yourself. What I don't like seeing/hearing is people complaining that their partner is insecure, anxious, controlling, but when asked what they themselves understand about mental health- they are simply dismissive of the subject because in their eyes, that is their partner's/friend's/family member's problem and not theirs. That ****s me.
